Okay
friends, please fill in the blank: “I can’t because…”
Thank you.
Now please
look at your “because” and (be truthful) ask yourself if it’s a reason, or an
excuse.
Hint: If
you have stopped looking for an alternative to it, it is no longer a “reason.”
It has become an excuse.
This
morning I had an interesting bit of inner dialogue happen, and I’m feeling
called to share it with you all. Maybe you’ll find something in it that you can
use. This was a “conversation” between the me that is afraid of change (yes,
even positive-feeling change) and the me that feels empowered and really ready for some things to change for the
better. Here’s how it went:
FM (Fearful
Me): I can’t because… [and the list of “reasons” followed]
EM
(Empowered Me): Bullshit. Why don’t you just cut to the chase, own your own
stuff, and say, “I’m choosing not to because…”?
FM: [Lots
of defending, justifying, complaining, and pleading my “I’m a powerless victim”
case.
EM: Knock
it off. You are no victim. There is not ONE THING going on in your life that
you couldn’t do differently if you chose to. [This is with regard to attitude
and perception. Nothing can change on the outside as long as the inner work is
ignored or avoided. Outer change is
ALWAYS an inside job. It can’t happen
any other way.]
FM: But…!!
EM: How
much do you want the positive change that you claim you want? Why don’t you start by being truthful with your own
dang self?! Rather than saying, “I can’t because…,” be honest and say, “I am
deliberately choosing not to, because I am afraid of what will happen – of who
I will have to become – if this works out well for me.” This can ONLY end your
pattern of self-sabotage – which is all the “I can’t because” attitude is,
isn’t it? When you take ownership and make it a deliberate choice to either
move in the direction of what you say you want or stay where you are right now
(without justifying or defending your choice. Just letting it be what it is.),
you remove all of the power from your BELIEF that your “I can’t because” is
valid… And you place that power right where it belongs – fully, deeply, within
your own heart, hands, and ability to create whatever you choose to create in
your life.
Hmmmm….
I’m just
going to leave it right there and let you decide what you will do with it. I’m
just being the messenger here. You get to choose how – or even if – you receive
it.
For myself,
and anyone who cares to join me in this:
Today I
choose to be authentic, and to make my choices from the inside… from the
deepest part of me that knows the full truth that lives at the root of each
individual choice. I choose to fully and completely own each choice that I
make, whether that choice seems to serve me or not, because I know that if I’m
standing fully in it I can make a choice to change it at its core. Or I can let
it be what it is until the time comes that I DO feel ready to change it. And
when that time comes, I know I’ll be able to do it the right way… the Empowered Way.
Love to all of you from Brighton, Colorado.
Be well,
Sandi
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