I Choose… the Gap
May 8, 2016
Hello Friends!
As you know, I am all
about knowing that I always get to choose what I think about things.
Last week I began a
practice of creating a gap between the time I perceive something (anything) and
actually having a thought about that something. For example: I’m driving on the
freeway and someone cuts in front of me. Am I obligated to think something about
that person? No. For a long time, my unconscious reaction would have been to
think that he or she was a jerk. Over the last few years I have deliberately
trained myself to tell a different story about them, a story that would give me
a feeling of compassion or understanding. That always feels way better to me
than being judgmental or critical, because I know that everyone has a story
behind why they behave the way they do, and if I knew their story, I would have
at least some understanding of their behavior. So that has worked well as a way
for me to be responsible for my own inner peace.
Another example: I
hear a gossipy, not-very-nice conversation between two co-workers about another
co-worker. Am I obligated to think something about that? No. Whether I join in
the conversation (which would be RARE), or judge them for gossiping (which is
my normal not-thinking-deliberately reaction), or walk away making a deliberate
choice not to judge – all of those responses come from a belief that, yes, I
get to choose what I think about things. But it also comes from a belief that
I’m supposed to think something about
everything. (Eckhart Tolle describes
this as being a slave to compulsive thinking. He also calls it an addiction.)
Last Wednesday I
decided to do an experiment (thanks to a book study I’m in right now of Tolle’s
“Power of Now” material). He says that the longer we wait to have a thought
about something after we’ve perceived that something, the more empowered we are
in our response to that something. I thought I’d check out that idea for
myself.
And I have to agree
with him. Not only is it empowering, it is actually freeing.
I will never forget
my second “ah-ha” moment ever, which happened on September 19, 1999 and which
was, “You mean I get to CHOOSE what I think about things?!
You mean I get to CHOOSE what I think about THIS [abusive man that I was in
relationship with, or the situation, itself]?!”
These last several
days have taken that ah-ha to a new level. It has now become, “I get to choose
whether or not I think ANYTHING about this. Just because I’ve observed or
perceived it, does not mean that I am obligated to have any thoughts regarding
it. I can let it be a non-issue.”
AND, in the gap
between the perception or observation and the thought, should I choose to think
anything about it, I get to choose both the content
and the quality of the thought that I
allow. What’s in that gap? Complete peace. Empowerment. And freedom.
I recommend this
experiment. Try it for yourself and watch what happens in your life as you
begin responding deliberately from the GAP, rather than reacting from your
unconscious habit.
I Choose… the Gap
This week I purposely create a gap
between my observations or perceptions and any thoughts I may have about those
observations or perceptions. I choose to tap in to the peace that lives in that
gap, and from there I decide whether or not I will even “go there.” I know that
“going there” is not an obligation, it is a choice, and it is completely
acceptable not to go there regarding most things.
If you would like to feel what real empowerment
feels like, practice this and watch what happens both within you AND in your
circumstances as you start thinking differently, which creates responses that
are different, too.
Love,
Sandi
No comments:
Post a Comment